Well things definitely have not been working out between me and my husband. He expressed to me that he does not want a divorce. I am not "in love" with him, but I love because of the time we shared and the 3 children that we have. " Would he be receptive to you telling him exactly what you expressed here as to what your needs/desires are for your marriage, or would you have to "play the game" more with him?Even though things seemed good for a moment, I decided that it was too soon for him to move back in the house. A long time ago I heard that relationships are like a pie. Go with your "gut" and be open and honest with him and see where it leads you.If there are children involved, overnight guests are a no-no,” said Kathy Stafford, 50, relationship coach and author of Relationship Remorse” (Eplanet Publishing) based in Charlotte, N. Children do not and should not have to deal with an endless stream of ‘new dads’ or ‘new moms.’ If you want to have a sexual relationship with someone new, that’s OK.Just don’t do it with the kids at home.” And in her opinion, it doesn’t matter how old they are.I thought that we should "date" each other for a while to see what happens. I am TOO forgiving, overlook often, very optimistic, and make excuses for him. For women, almost the entire pie revolves around our significant other. It will probably go back and forth until it stabilizes one way or the other.When you wanted your marriage to work and have done it for 7 years, you began to do it without even knowing. I want to be firm, realistic, but not too demanding. For the men, it is only a "slice" and they have many more portions that are important to them too. Kcrat IMO 2 weeks isn't long enough for someone to change their life for good, especially if the behaviors that caused the split have been going on for years. My H and I have been separated for almost 2 months and while it's been hard, I know that if we are serious about changing some of our behaviors and it is going to take time. I've been going to C by myself and he has expressed interest in possibily joining me.Make sure you take this time to work on yourself as well. I am going to counseling, but I don't want to offer it to him. I want to see him make the steps in the right direction and continue in them. I don't have any suggestions for you, just sympathy. He has peace and calm all the time and can't do 4 days...
It’s never a good idea, but not even for the moral reasons or even the kids.I am thinking of it from a litigious point of view.We have had many cases that we have surveilled and that can be brought to light during the litigation and can jeopardize child support,” said Thomas Martin, 63, a private investigator and former FBI agent from Newport Beach, Calif.However, if you expect your H to turn into Prince Charming and be your knight in shining armor I am sorry but that is unrealistic. Don't get me wrong, he has done his part, but I am looking at myself too. I am going through it now and I am as indecisive as you are.
If you love your H, take things slow and do whatever you can to work through this. If I want him to be better, I want to be better for him too. Then I think if he ever makes that it may still be a lost cause. nice living on his own that he can handle out house with 3 kids one of them having autism. I've said the exact same things as you to my therapist. Please tell me what happened after your separation.
Treat me as someone that he wants to take it to the "next level" with (i.e. I really want to feel like he adores me and I am the most important thing in the world to him (besides our kids). I want a brand new marriage WITH him since I have had so many personal revelations and so has he, but I am afraid I will be kicked in the stomach and disappointed once again if we ever even tried.