Be honest, but not in a hurtful way, about why you are ending the relationship.If there wasn’t a clearly identified situation that occurred that is responsible for the breakup, it may be a surprise to him.Having some explanation about why you decided to stop dating may help him put the relationship in perspective.You don’t have to give him an involved explanation -- "My needs for a relationship have changed since we first began dating" may suffice. Give him the opportunity to share his feelings about the relationship ending, so long as he does so in a respectful way.For the betterment of society and youth-dating culture, I’ve put together a series of texts you can send (See? ) to end a romantic liaison, depending on your situation and how many dates you've been on with the person you're rejecting.Feel free to implement any or all of these templates for your own use, you lazy bastard: Even after a couple dates, though you're still a free agent and owe nothing to anyone, it's still considerate to take the 10 seconds out of your crazy busy life to let the guy off the hook if he's still trying to go for date three.
As I wrote earlier this year in an essay on the ethics of the fadeaway, I’d rather a guy text me "hi im done w/ u, boning my ex now" than inexplicably stop responding to all of my totally adorable conversation starters and late-night propositions.Pick a neutral, well-lit space so the conversation doesn't end in a hook up. (Your therapy appointment is in 30 minutes, for example.)You may feel a connection, but there's a reason you both have been "too busy" to spend quality human-to-human time together.Something is missing, and you don't feel like wasting your time on a dead-end romantic prospect.This text can be fun and warm; who knows, maybe you'll cross paths in the future?